Let’s talk for a minute about unhealthy relationships. We have all witnessed them; some are plain as day. But what if you aren’t sure if the relationship you’re currently in is healthy? It can be a bit confusing. We’re going to talk about some of the biggest red flags in a relationship.
Controlling. When you enter into a relationship with another person, you’re doing so with the understanding that some compromises will have to be made. That’s just how it is. However, if your partner is trying to control everything you do, that’s a red flag. You should be allowed to hang out with your friends, do things that don’t involve your partner, etc. If your partner is getting irrationally angry that you went out with the girls last week, or that you stayed in and played video games with the guys, then you might want to reconsider.
Selfish. One of the hardest parts about being in a relationship is having to learn that it’s not all about you. Even adults have a really hard time with this. When you’re in a committed relationship, you have to think about your partner when you make decisions, too. Especially the big ones. This kind of goes along with compromising, like we talked about earlier.
Pressuring. A healthy relationship shouldn’t feel pressured. If your partner is pressuring you to do something that you are uncomfortable doing (emotionally, physically, or otherwise), it’s a major red flag that should cause you to evaluate the relationship.
Manipulative. Manipulation comes in a lot of different forms. Your partner might start guilt-tripping you when you do something they don’t approve of (like going places without them). Or they could start making threats (“I’ll break up with you if you don’t ________”). If your partner has displayed any of these behaviors, it’s a red flag. Something isn’t right!
Healthy relationships at a young age (geez, even at an old age) can be difficult and confusing. You aren’t alone! Hopefully, you haven’t experienced any of these red flags in a relationship. But maybe you have. If you feel like you are in an unhealthy relationship, feel free to reach out to us. We’d be happy to talk you through it!