Long Distance Relationships
For some, the concept of a long distance relationship (LDR) isn’t new - technology has globalized us in a way that makes it easy for us to connect with people who live far away from us. For others, it’s something that may have been introduced this year, given that we’re in the middle of a global pandemic. Regardless of the reason, LDRs can be a bit tricky to navigate. Below are some tips on how to navigate a long distance relationship.
Make sure you both have the same endgame. You’ve both agreed to be a part of an LDR. Cool! Now make sure that you have the same end goal in mind. You want to be on the same page as your partner, so to speak. This is important in all relationships, but is something that needs to be paid special attention to in an LDR. Is it temporary? Are you both wanting to work towards getting married in the future? Are you exclusive? These are all questions that only you and your partner can answer.
Go beyond technology. Technology has helped aid in LDRs a great deal. It’s easier than ever to connect with someone via Facebook, Snapchat, FaceTime, etc. Put forth a little effort and make sure there are physical, tangible ways to connect with the other person. Digital media is fleeting, in a sense, and it’s always nice to have something physical to remind you of your partner. Send letters via snail mail to each other. Send flowers, postcards, little trinkets from wherever you are. It’s nice to go beyond a quick text!
Do more than just check in. Going off of what I was talking about with technology, it’s super easy to send a quick message to check in with someone. Make sure you take the time to have good conversations -- more than just “hey this is what I’m up to today.” You want to make sure that you’re truly connecting with your partner, even if it has to be online, and seeing how they are doing, what they’re thinking about, the things they are enjoying… It’s always nice to get a quick “checking in” message, but make sure you don’t rely solely on those in your relationship!
Take the time to check in with yourself. LDRs can be hard on a person. Human beings are social creatures by nature; we long to be with people. You will miss the physical presence of your partner. Take the time to check in with yourself and see how you’re doing. What are you happy with? What parts of the long distance relationship are difficult for you? How have you changed as a person since you last saw your partner? It’s important to evaluate who you are and what your goals are from time to time, and to make sure that the relationship you are in lines up with those.
Long distance relationships are increasingly common given our ability to travel and communicate digitally. They certainly can be a good thing, but it’s important to check in on your partner and yourself continuously to make sure everything is on the right track!